Be Yourself. Everyone else is taken!" ~Oscar Wilde

Friday, February 10, 2017

The Practice is Going LIVE this Monday!

Coming to a computer screen near you!

Oh my golly, everyone... I've been waiting YEARS for this to happen, and it's about to go live.

This is really, really, really, really good news!

I just was informed that The Practice is going live on Monday, February 13, 2017!

(Can you sense the excitement?)

Mindset expert Patricia Moreno has been in my life since 2008 when a dear friend forced me to do her cardio kickboxing cd because she wanted me to be more active. I was pushing 200 pounds, and my friend was worried about my health. It was a hard workout, and the video really helped me get motivated to push myself. I gave it my all. At the very end of the video, while I felt sweat pouring out of me, Patricia looked right into the camera and said:

"Nod your head, if you did your best."

My friend and I both nodded vigorously and high-fives each other.   I felt fantastic because I had done my best. I got my own copy of the video, then searched on line for other videos and discovered intenSati. At the beginning of that video, she said,

This made me cry.
Because I couldn't DO it.
I couldn't imagine it. 
Something stopped me.
I was stopping myself. Until...

In 2012, I decided to upgrade my self image. I committed to doing that intenSati video every day. The goal was 30 days. I did that, then another 30. On my 3rd month, a MIRACLE happened. Patricia released a new 13-month program called Sati Life Warrior Training. Every month, a new full workout with new declarations. There was a monthly challenge, a book to study, a monthly call, and an interactive online community. 

That year, I improved my health, 
lost 50 pounds, left a soul-killing job, 
and started a private practice.

The following year, I went to New York to attend intenSati Leader training. 

I joined the training on an invitation I received from Satilife, even though at first, it was so out of character for me, I thought it was a mistake, Surely they hadn't meant to send it to me. I was assured that I could do it. And then I believed I could.


 Here's what I know:
Repetition is the Mother of Skill.  Here's my confession:  I fell out of regular practice for a couple of years.. I allowed myself to return to old, habitual responses to stress. 

Slowly but surely,I wasn't practicing every day. I found excuses and said I was too busy.  From 2014 to now, I have not felt as healthy, and I have noticed a dip in my energy level.  I wasn't practicing my own practice.

Here's the good news:  I know what to do. I also know that getting into practice means I don't have to wait to feel better. I just need to engage.

The good news is that THE PRACTICE is an upgrade from Sati Life Warrior Training, and it starts very soon! 

I've already gone back to doing the current series daily, and every day I feel a little more energy and vitality.  With only a week of daily practice, I'm already seeing my stamina improving. 


For $999/year you receive:

12 Months of engaged Training & practice

The Practice kicks off with a four-week online course. Patricia will lead you through four weekly webinars to help prime you for the journey ahead.  The webinars will help you develop goals that get you excited, and motivated into action. You'll work on developing ways of learning how to respond effectively to stressful situations where you may have reacted in habitual ways in the past. If you have a goal, chances are that achieving it will require that you will need to be different from the person you've been in the past. This will help you develop the tools and the confidence necessary to bring those dreams into reality.

From there, The Practice continues with a monthly focus on making progress and developing your character, opening your heart, and strengthening your body. You’ll learn change-work strategies that will help you build your personal development tool kit

You will be able to keep yourself in a high-performance state of mind and body, one day at time.
One of the primary aspects of The Practice is the wake-up morning program. What time do you wake up now?  What if you could wake up just a few minutes earlier and practice moving and thinking in ways that will shift your experience as you enter into the day?

Get engaged in the Game!

  • A guided morning meditation that combines mindfulness, guided visualization, intention setting and a gratitude ritual.
  • A 7-minute quick fix workout that will include cardio and strength training
  • A 5-minute yoga/stretch routine to do anytime to increase flexibility and peace of mind
  • An hour live-recorded intenSati workout
  • An audio workout to use for walking, running, biking or hiking (with intenSati affirmations!)
  • A 30-day challenge intended to help you develop yourself mentally, physically or spiritually
  • A lesson for the month delivered as a podcast to open your mind and heart to new solutions
  • Access to a community of people who are committed to engaging in this process
ACCESS TO RESOURCES:  A yearlong access to information that will keep you going when the going gets tough. Stay inspired, stay in the practice, and create a sustainable, fun daily practice. 

Well, are you in?  Will you join me?  Are you willing to say YES to living a life you love in a body you love and YES to doing what it takes?

Great!  Click on the button below, and you'll be ready to join me, and a community of encouraging enthusiastic people around the world. Say Yes to your goals and Yes to a commitment to doing what it takes, in a state of love and gratitude, NO MATTER WHAT.

Remember, it goes live THIS COMING MONDAY, February 13, 2017!!!!

Join Me!  It will be a great investment in yourself.

  SIGN UP for The Practice HERE  

And if you're in Bend, come be my guest in class!!

Friday, August 26, 2016

SHOCKING NEW STUDY: Even You Can Train Yourself to Change Your Mood, but Only if You Really Want to.

What's in YOUR Self Image?
Just for today, I'm hopping on the SHOCKING NEW STUDY bandwagon. Spoiler alert:  The short version of my message here is twofold:  1) It’s a great idea to use your common sense before quickly believing what you find on the inter webs  and  2) Yes, positive affirmations absolutely do work if you really want to believe them and you know how to use them.

I suppose I should also offer a trigger alert. If you have low self esteem, you may expose yourself to some discomfort because you will be unfairly compared to people with high self esteem. It may put you in touch with the idea that life isn't fair.. Just reading that last paragraph, did you find yourself saying, I don't believe you... you're full of baloney!  Positive affirmations are for Faker McFake faces.

And the good news. If you're still reading, you WANT to know the (dare I say it?) secret

Don't believe me. Get curious, use your brain, and Decide for yourself. You don't have to read another word of this article.. unless you're kind of curious...

What happens when you read a headline describing a “Shocking New Study?” Does that give you the idea that you’re about to learn a startling new truth?


As Harvard Professor, Dr. Ellen Langer will tell you, Research, at best, presents you with a probability. Studies are based on the beliefs, biases, and monetary incentives of the people doing the research. They usually have a desired result in mind, and will delete, distort, and generalize to prove a point.

So now I come to my inspiration for writing this blog post. Recently, someone sent me a video about Positive Affirmations.

The video referred to A SHOCKING NEW STUDY revealing that positive affirmations don’t work, and can actually increase your stress levels. Out of curiosity, I followed the rabbit all the way down the hole and to the end of the video promo designed to put you in a horribly depressed and deprived state. Then, and only then do they offer their easy to use, miracle video, because without it, you’re doomed to a life of failure and misery.  Yes folks, for only a one time payment of a measly $47, you’ll be sent their sure fire EASY and EFFORTLESS way to happiness.

“There is no way to happiness. 
Happiness is the way.”  
~Dr. Wayne Dyer

This company is using an old study, targeting people with low self esteem in order to sell something. That's evil and wrong. 

I'll diverge for a moment. In the early days of space travel the USA and the Russian Cosmonaut program used pencils because pens clogged in zero gravity.  Then one day, a guy named Price spent millions of dollars developing a zero gravity space pen which he sold to NASA for just under 3 bucks a piece. The man who did this has made back his millions and more over the past fifty years, selling his zero gravity pens. He did all that research to sell you a gimmick, and they're still for sale all over the world. 

Let’s go back to that SHOCKING study referenced in that video.  I found the Article entitled, “PositiveSelf-Statements:  Power for Some, Peril for Others.

Let’s stop there.  What a title!!  Wow.  Peril.  (No bias there). (!!!). 

This dour band of scientists set out to prove that positive affirmations are a waste of time if you don’t already believe them, and your poor limbic system will fire like it's the fourth of July, and that's not good. 
Your Brain on Positive Affirmations..

Here's what they wanted to prove:
“If the positive statement falls outside one’s latitude of acceptance, one will reject the statement and perhaps hang on more fervently to their negative convictions.”  (Wood, Perunovic, & Lee, 2009).

No surprises there. I have met a lot of people who cling desperately to some truly heinous self-perceptions. It’s not until they want something new that will require them to let go of these perceptions that they will loosen their vice-like grip.

So here is what they did in the study. The researchers chose the affirmation, “I am a lovable person.” They tested participants to determine their levels of self esteem. The participants were instructed to say the affirmation every time they were cued by a ring tone, (about every 15 seconds).  For FOUR minutes. After a period of 4 minutes, the participants were asked to report their moods. Unsurprisingly, the people who had higher self esteem reported an improvement in mood. The people with lower self esteem reported a worsened mood, and brain scans reported increased limbic activity in their brains.

SHOCKING. People with low self esteem did not “get happy” in 4 minutes.

My amazing skills of calculation lead me to the number 16. People repeated the phrase “I am a lovable person" 16 times.  

If that did it, there would be no self help section in your book store. 

That’s only slightly a few more repetitions than Bob Wiley mutters in the opening credits of What about Bob, and you see where that was getting him.


That’s like asking someone who hasn't exercised in years to do four minutes of cardio. One time won't do it. If they did four minutes of cardio for the next four months, however, that person would be starting to notice changes.

The truth is that getting fitter, or improving your self concept is going to require a little practice.  The question is whether you have a reason to motivate you. Chances are you are the way you are because nothing is tugging at you enough to make a change.  It also may well be that changing would make you feel vulnerable or uncomfortable.  

It's so unfortunate that these researchers condemned positive affirmations for people with low self esteem after 4 minutes.  It's what Michael Phelps does. It's not too good for you, no matter how sad you are, or how many tragedies have befallen you. 

Have a compelling reason to motivate you.

ON my way to finding the study, I found another study conducted by the very same University of Waterloo measuring the effectiveness of positive affirmations with cancer patients. In that study, positive affirmations were proven to be effective. Of course, these people were faced with life or death. 

Life is a pretty compelling reason
 to think healthier thoughts, especially when you consider the alternative...

How to Improve Your Self Concept Using Positive Affirmations

Here’s how you get into a state. It is a combination of your physicality, your focus, and your language.  How you hold your body, what thoughts you focus on, and how you describe what you’re focusing on will put you in a state of depression, grief, sorrow, joy, anxiety… Change one thing and your state can shift. Change all three, and you can change your state. Practice changing your state, and you can get yourself out of a funk without faking it. 
If you want to change your state, change one of these. If you really want to change your state, change all three.

Here are the steps to making affirmations work.
  1. Know your why. What is your compelling reason for wanting to believe that pesky and elusive positive concept? Do you want to improve your relationships? Get a better job? Get healthier? Make a blockbuster major motion picture? What?
  2. Imagine who you will have to be to accomplish this. See yourself, feel yourself, hear the sounds associated with that moment of mission accomplished.  Will you need a different self concept?
  3. Decide to take responsibility for your life. Start choosing for yourself. Stop relying on people, things, food, and other things outside of yourself. Unless it's ducks or dogs. Ducks and dogs are wonderful.
  4. Check your pose.  Are you slouching? Is your chest caved in? Are your shoulders touching your ears? Try this instead. Stand tall. Feet should be right under your pelvis, slightly bent. Chest forward, shoulder back, chin tucked slightly. Feel your spine getting lengthened. Place your hands on your hips, pull your elbows back behind you. Feel vulnerable and silly?  Bonus points for you!!
  5. Move!  Take your affirmations for a walk. If you have the energy, skip!!  Tony Robbins calls his affirmations “InCANtations.” He will tell you that you absolutely need to get your body involved.
  6. Take a few deep breaths. Feel the breath filling your lungs in all directions, filling your rib case, pushing down to your diaphragm, and up into your shoulders. Imagine the oxygen travelling to every cell of your being.
  7. Speak with conviction. Even if you disagree with it, there’s a part of you that wants to believe it. Say out loud, “I am a lovable person.” 
  8. Notice your response. If it’s a good feeling, move to step 13. If it is no bueno, see step 8.
  9. Welcome the discomfort. Tell yourself, “I’m sure this makes sense. 
  10. Ask some questions of the discomfort, and notice the answers without judging them:
      1. What is your objection?
      2. Is it true?
      3. How is this helping me?
      4. How old is the objection?
      5. Does it belong to me?
      6. Does the objection still hold?
      7. Am I ready for an upgrade of my self concept?  If the answer to this last question is no, then this is a good time for you to stop.Until you decide you want to adopt a different way of viewing yourself, all the affirmations in the world won't help.
  11.  Keep repeating that positive affirmation, with conviction, as best you can, even if you feel uncomfortable.
  12. Be willing to upgrade your self concepts. Keep repeating the line, with conviction. “I am a lovable person.”
  13. Allow yourself to cry and sob as you keep repeating the affirmation. Do your best to say it with conviction. That’s your healthy self concept helping your negative self concept to heal, much as a mother gives soothing reassuring comfort to her sobbing infant. Good mothers don’t give up on their crying children. Be your own good mother and don’t give up on yourself.
  14. Bring to mind moments when you experienced love. If you can’t think of any, think of movies you’ve watched, or television commercials, for chrissake, when someone was loved and being lovable. If you can’t think of anything else, watch this video of these adorable ducks and put yourself right in that pool with them. (Unless, of course, this upsets you.).
  15. Understand that this is a practice. You are teaching yourself to change your state.  You will improve with practice.  You’ve been doing this several times a day since you were born. If you begin noticing this, you will be amazed!  
  16. Get good at it through practice.  Pretty soon, you’ll be right up there with Pollyanna and Little Miss Sunshine!!
  17. Know that things will happen and you’ll have bad days, and that the good news is you won’t have to spend nearly as long staying in a funk.

My conclusion?  You are a lovable person. You always have been (even when you weren’t).   It's your birth right, and my wish for you is that you begin to believe it, and let go of those erroneous messages from childhood. You do not need to wallow in the pain and sorrow of the past.

My other conclusion?  Be discerning of what you come across in life, and ask if it's true or useful. 

That, and, get curious about those SHOCKING STUDIES on the inter webs.

AND LAST, (In Keeping with the SHOCKING STUDY bandwagon, here's a shameless plug.  Try intenSAti for 30 days. Find an instructor near you.  If you're in Bend, it's me.  You can try it for free. If you live elsewhere, visit 


See what's there, and find a leader near you!  They are lovely people, and you just might like it. It helped me to understand how powerful positive declarations can be. Through this practice, I went from hating my job and my life to getting healthier and happier. 
Try intenSati for 30 days.  (First one's free..)

Friday, October 3, 2014

The Power of Habit - This month's intenSati Workout theme

Ah, The Power of Habit!!
Yeah, not that kind of habit. 

I'm talking the gazillion habits we have which keep us from having to make a ton of decisions every time we do things.  A lot of habits are ones we don't even think about.

Habits happen in a three step process (mostly without our thinking about it).

Here's an example.  When I am feeling bad, that can be a cue. My routine unconscious habit?  Binge watch some inane or great television show on Netflix. The result?  I am rewarded by not having to feel anything. I enter a trance-like zombie state and  find relief.

The problem is that as soon as I stop watching Netflix, the bad feelings will return, and may be worse because now I'll feel that I have wasted several hours of life.

 If I want more long lasting and satisfying rewards for having a routine cue for sadness, I'll need to find something new that is equally as enticing. 


How about this?

I feel sad.  I decide to do an intenSati workout.  I feel great while I'm doing it, and I get to keep feeling great afterwards, thanks to the power of endorphins.

Is there a habit you want to change?

Come work it out! This month's series is inspired by the book, The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg.

Saturday, July 5, 2014

intenSati: The Magic of Loving the Skin You're In!

Dance Like Nobody's Watching...
When is the last time you allowed yourself to dance full out, for the sheer pleasure of it? How many times have you had the urge to dance, but stopped out of fear of looking foolish or being judged? 

The truth is that there is nothing more amazing and inspiring than someone dancing with pure joy. It's amazing to watch someone feeling comfortable being in their body. It's even better for us to feel that way ourselves. 

This month, the theme for intenSati is about breaking the chain of criticizing your body. Your body is a gift and when you shift from dislike to love, you will experience your body as holy.  Come join us saturdays at Get A Move On Studio in Bend and find out how much fun you can have doing the Sexier Living Series.  You'll leave with a spring in your step and a smile on your face.   Click here for updates on schedule and upcoming classes.

You can also do the workout at home by purchasing it at

So you may have already seen the following video. I'm including it here because it's a great example of someone taking pleasure in movement. The guy in the Speedo is so much more inspiring and happy than the instructor. If we could all be that comfortable in our bodies, there would be a lot more dancing, and a lot less need for health care..

Friday, May 23, 2014

Meteor Shower Tonight!!


The Camelopardalids will be putting on a show for us tonight. It's a new one, and an obscure one (And more than a mouthful to say).

According to predictions, there should be enough "Ohh, Ahhh," factor to rival the Perseids.

So the peak time is tonight between 11pm and 1pm Pacific time (Between 2am and 4am Eastern time).

I'm very excited to observe them and enjoy the feeling of safety that our Earth's Atmosphere provides us, sparing us from an attack from the Vermicious Knids.

The "K" is not silent.  K'NIDS.

For those of you who did not read Charlie and the Great Glass Elevator, here's the D.L.:

Vermicious Knids (about as many syllables as Camelopardalids) are huge, dark, egg-shaped beings who do not have any teeth, but swallow their victims whole. They are at home in the vacuum of space, originating on the planet Vermes, a fictional planet located 184,270,000,000 miles from Earth (52 times Pluto's distance).

Vermicious Knids spelling out the word SCRAM
Their weak points:  1) They are show-offs. They cannot resist shaping themselves into letters formulating the word, "SCRAM" (the only word they know) before attacking.  2) They are not heat-proof and do not own retro-rockets and therefore cannot enter Earth's atmosphere without being burned up by friction.

According to Willy Wonka, what we silly human beings think to be shooting stars are actually legions of Knids burning up in the atmosphere. 

So my advice?  Grab a lawn chair and a buddy or two, and go watch the night sky, knowing that the earth is safe from the wrath of the Vermicious Knids.

Or you can visit the Earth Sky article on tonight's sky and allow science to triumph over your wondrous imagination,

Monday, March 17, 2014

What's With the Shamrocks, You Say?

Shamrocks  - a great visual for the holy trinity
Happy St. Patrick's Day to you.  

About those Shamrocks…. St. Patrick brought Catholicism to many a Pagan in Ireland. Being such lovely, nature-loving folk, it made sense that he gave lovely explanations of the holy trinity using a shamrock, which is pretty neat, I think.

So as you're drinking your green beer, or munching on cabbage, or whatever you'll do to celebrate the holiday, it might be nice to think of Old St. Patrick and whatever your holy trinity might be. Mind-Body-Spirit? Inhale-exhale-repeat? Think-Act-Feel?

And Did you ever wonder how the Death Date of the Patron Saint of Ireland has become a drinking holiday?

Well, think of what time of year it is.  Did you or any of your pals give up something for Lent?  

St. Patrick's day is, I believe, a very clever PR ploy. It's an excuse to set aside, for a day, the Lenten restrictions.


Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Defining Aloha

Aloha - a·lo·ha  ∂'lõhä
Expression and greeting
[alo=presence, front, face] + [ha = breath]
‘The presence of divine breath’
1.           Hello, greetings
2.           Farewell
3.           (adjective) friendly, hospitable, welcoming: The aloha spirit prevails throughout the islands

“Aloha” has numerous meanings. The most common uses are as a greeting, farewell, or salutation.  Aloha is also commonly used to mean love. It can also be used to express compassion, regret, or sympathy. People who have made a study of the Hawaiian language will say that words like “Aloha” and “Mahalo” (farewell) are ineffable, indescribable. One cannot define these terms with words alone. They are sacred invocations of the divine, and must be experienced to be truly understood.
Divine breath.
As you breathe today, know that you are breathing in life, love, vitality. That breath will flow in to your lungs, to your heart, and out to all of you through your arteries and capillaries.  It’s really quite miraculous!
Add love to the mixture.
Here is some of what the Reverend Abraham Akaka had to say about aloha:

Aloha consists of this attitude of heart; the unconditional desire to promote the true good of other people in a friendly spirit, out of a sense of kinship. Aloha seeks to do good, with no conditions attached. We do not do good only to those who do good to us. One of the sweetest things about the love of God (the Great Spirit), about Aloha, is that it welcomes the stranger and seeks his and her good. A person, who has the spirit of Aloha loves even when the love is not returned. And such is the love of God (the Great Spirit).

The spirit of aloha conveys the notion that we are all connected.

What happens when we come under attack, or feel stressed?  Usually, without thinking about it, our breathing becomes shallow. Sometimes we hold our breath.  

With this reduced supply of the divine, we can lose our compassion. We can disconnect ourselves from those around us. We can become so caught up in our own discomfort that we can lose all sense of how we affect those in our presence.

During my last trip home, I discussed this notion with a friend of mine who noted that the word “haole” (foreigner) is made up of two words: “Ha” (breath)” and “ole,” meaning without.

Sometimes when people are not familiar to us, we might not see the divinity in them.  Like that person who cut you off in traffic, or cut in front of you as you patiently stood in line.

These are the times when we need to stop for a moment to breathe. To reconnect with the divine presence within ourselves. 

As the flight attendants tell us on every flight, we have to get our breathing apparatus in place before we can help others. 

As we breathe, we will be better able to connect with our compassion. Perhaps we might better remember that we are all connected, and this can bring compassion and understanding.

And less finger-slinging.

Even and perhaps especially when it’s not returned.

It’s like the story of the two monks travelling on a dusty road. They heard a noise that sounded like thunder. A cloud of dust rose up from behind them as a cart with four horses went crashing by. The two monks jumped out of the way just in time. 

As the man with the horses shot out ahead of them, the elder monk dusted himself off and waved, saying, “May God bless you, and may you feel that blessing!”

The younger monk was puzzled. “How can you say such a thing?  That man nearly killed us!”

The older monk smiled and said, “That man is in need of our best wishes. If he had felt God’s blessing already, he would have been unable to treat us in such a manner.

It also reminds me of that poem by Mary Oliver, and the wonderful line:

May you breathe deeply today. Feel your divinity. Be loving, and enjoy a deep sense of connection with all beings.